Chapter one
As I sit here with my life in a standstill I feel the need to share my life with someone. I know what I say won't be any comfort to anyone. Yet I do know that it can show someone out there that they aren't alone. I'm hoping to also show everyone what really goes on in the life of a dead beat dad and his second family. What do I mean by second family? Well if you're married to someone who has been married and had children then got divorced and you're the second spouse and have children then you're the second family and you don't matter to any court, well five percent of you does but that's about it, you're only worth five percent. Before I start this i want you to know that i don't disagree with child support when its needed but when it's not i have a problem. I also would like to ask the president that caused all this mess how he sleeps at night. This isn't a pretty story. This is my life. These are my opinions. I am not here to argue or debate with anyone so before that starts......i really don't care what anyone thinks. I'm basically stating the facts in my life. I am not book savvy so i will not be calling the actual companies by their names because i don't feel like being sued because i basically have no money to give for they have taken it all already. I will also state another simple fact before its thrown up in my face. I receive child support from my ex husband for a child we had in my first marriage........and i think its necessary since he chose to walk out on his son. He has no contact, he doesn't spend any time with his child at all and hasn't seen him in a couple of years so yeah i feel he needs to help financially. His new wife can't stand me and the fact that I was going to put a restraining order on her for calling me a bitch and alienating my child from me, and trying to punch or slap me outside of a courtroom and I have said nothing to this girl who is half my age but i have told my ex husband that even i don't say ill things about him in front of our child and I ask for the same respect. If that pushed him away from his child so be it because it was doing damage to our child. Why I am not publishing this piece of work to make money? Because those who need it to hear it can't afford it. I hate websites for those who are in my situation that cost money. It's bullshit cause you know if they are in this situation they don't have the money for anything and what they do have has to go to food, the other child ect. This book is about Child support. The department we are going to call the department of inconsiderate assholes. The other company we are going to call rape you in the ass enforcement. Did you know many have killed themselves because they wanted to pay but couldn't and they couldn't take what was being done to them? Its because they are weak and cowards some say.....i say it takes balls to take your own life and it is an end to the suffering so i can't really blame them or make judgment on them yet i don't recommend anyone take their life but i can understand why those that have done it did it. In July of 2005 I met the man of my dreams. He is my world and still is till this day. We will just call him Jay. His first marriage ended because his spouse was a cheater. He didn't want to live that kind of life style anymore nor did he want to catch any diseases. When he divorced he has joint custody/shared parenting. The way the courts deal with this is parents share the same amount of time with the child give or take a day or several. My husband was ordered to pay five hundred dollars a month in child support at the time he agreed to it. Sadly if he had gone by the child support guidelines and it was equal the amount would of been a lot less. When i came into his life his ex had a reality check and started to freak out because not only was a divorced filled so she could get remarried but now Jay was in a relationship. Calls started coming in from her stating she needed to talk to him about their son. Which of course could not be done over the phone by her standards. So when he went to talk to her guess what? It wasn't about their child it was take me back pllllllleeeeaaaaasssssseeee tears, tears, sob, sob........I'll be the wife you dreamed of......that told my husband run!!!!!!!!!!!! Then the next thing was an anniversary, she came over on their anniversary and asked him if he was sure he wanted to get a divorce. Yes it sounds crazy but she did. He again told her he can't wait! Some people just don't understand what their actions do to other people. Shortly after the divorce I got pregnant. The first rumor she started was it wasn't his baby. Then when he went to drop his son off from his visit she was so pissed she yelled congratulations on the baby. He said thank you which furthered her rage. Then the calls came in about how his son didn't feel like a part of the family yet when his son was asked how he feels he was excited but said his mom said all kinds of stuff cause she was mad. So you can just imagine the stuff this six year old boy was feeling. His mother was so adamant about me being gotten rid of she asked my husband to meet her at the park so she could again tell him about how their son did not like the situation......what did this woman want me to have an abortion.....i think not. This all continued on. She would show up at family functions speaking rudely to me and i let her because she was only making an ass of herself and after she left i found out i wasn't the only one who thought it. many said she was jealous many said she was the stupid bitch who caused the break up and many said she didn't belong at family events cause she was no longer my husband's family. On the day i delivered my child with this man his ex wife actually called our hospital room to discuss with him matters of their son......come on now there is a time and a place and this wasn't the time.....thanks to my mother in law for giving her the personal information she needed to get a hold of my husband. All this harassing guess what? There is nothing that can be done about it but a judge will say now now you shouldn't be doing that. Not to mention she would start fights each and every time she called and she did it in front of their child. Now imagine living with that kind of drama and dealing with the court system the department of assholes. My husband lost his job during the recession. Have you tried getting a job lately without a degree? Yeah good luck with that. There are papers you can file to temporary relief but you have to go and file a motion to do so and hope that the department of assholes will be lenient cause most of the time they tell you they don't give a damn where the money comes from but you better find it and only give you a few hours to do so or go to jail. Considering your child is with you half of the time and with your ex on the other half for shared parenting why in the fuck can't both parties just take care of the child when it's with them? Split the doctors bills and insurance because i think it is wrong to make these parents pay for when the child is with them throughout the summer. The non custodial parent has to take care of the child when the child is with them as well and when they are with the other parent and yet we call this fair in the state....I call it bullshit. Did you know that half your check gets taken? Yes half and if you have a family they let you keep five percent extra but that's it. So let's say you get 1000 a month you only actually get 500 to live on. On top of that you have to also pay your child's health insurance and half the bill that the insurance doesn't cover. I know what you're thinking...just call the department of assholes and tell them your situation they can help you work it out.......that is the biggest joke ever told. The department of assholes get money for you being what society calls a dead beat so they hope you fail and get a pretty bonus when you do. Why in the hell are they going to help you? Now you're thinking that's illegal!!!!! Yep sure is but do you want to go against the government? Cause that's who gives them their bonus's. But wait! It gets worse......when you get behind on your child support by a few payments you lose your driver's license so now you can't get to work to make the money to pay your child support and now you can't see your child because your ex doesn't give a damn and won't bring you the child or you know when they do it will be another argument and you got enough on your damn plate why can't the bitch/asshole just stay in the fucking car? Then they report you to the nice credit people so everyone knows you're a dead beat so you can forget any loan you might of been able to get to help you pay your child support. Then tada you go to court and they tell you to give them 1,000.00 or go to jail. What you have other children and no one to keep them while you're in jail well child services will take them and most likely miss place them and they will be abused before you see them again. Then while you're in jail all this starts all over cause you still owe child support however you gotta come up with the back owed in order to get out of jail. So you can join a inmate work program and make a check for 34 dollars a week and have nothing to show for it cause the amount you made doesn't even put a dent in it and you got more rears following you as you sweat your ass off doing someone else's work. Hey be happy though people's taxes are paying for your time in jail and you get to eat and have a roof over your head. So yeah it's a waste of tax payers' dollars. most of these men aren't running either they are trying but since the department of assholes hear it so much that when someone is sincere well they don't really give fuck. You also should of thought about it when you had more kids......even though most have children with new spouses when they were paying child support and up to date with it. So if you have been divorced with children don't move on with life cause you're a loser and will never amount to anything. Under this will be websites to support what i have said thus far and if for some reason this blog disappears well its because no one wants you to see what actually goes on with this whole system. I do not own any of these video's they are merely references.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8M7cEi61W24
http://www.menstuff.org/issues/byissue/childsupport.html
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